We are always told to give and always give a lot of ourselves, but at times this can leave us drained with nothing left to share. Many of us end up giving a lot of ourselves and not receiving anything in return and ask ourselves why we are so drained from life.
Little do we know we have been extorting ourselves with all our love that we have non left in return for ourselves. Many of us find ourselves battling with finding balance in giving and receiving love in return because we have so much love to give. We grew up learning that we have to give to receive but we always find ourselves suffocating our own well being giving more than we could even bear. Each day we spend countless hours shedding ourselves thin and not giving ourselves the nutrients we need to full our own cup back.
It is a wonderful gift to be a healer and know you are needed by others but at times healers need to recharge. That is why the moon changes, so we can take time to heal ourselves. Healers are not put on this earth to heal everyone at times we need healing as well especially when we are always tending to everyone. Our world is in need of more healers as so many are crying out for help but I have seen healers not take any time for themselves to the point they end up needing a lot more healing than they can imagine in their life.
There is a saying before you wipe the cold out someone else eyes you should clean your own first. This can go as well for those who are involved in healing or spiritual lives, we have to take time to ensure we are align and ready to face what we have ahead and not take up other baggage without being able to hold our own. Make sure you can manage what you have to bear before jumping into another war that you know nothing about.
Giving is a selfless act that is to be taken dearly and many who give with their whole heart would not admit they feel empty at times. This is because they was thought to never expect anything in return, now while this is a good gesture, when we always give and never receive anything in return. You can lose some self respect for self as you are always having a open hand and those around you take and know it will be ok to never return a favor because of your good nature. To me this is where a line has to be drawn and self love and respect has to be taken back as you have become a stomping bag.
So when giving learn to take a step back and know you are a giving a part of yourself and not just give because it says so in the books. Know you are giving and you are also human and there is no need to feel guilty if you give once and do not want to give again. It can be because you can’t or you really have expectations. In life we have to learn to be honest with ourselves and really stop and learn to be selfish every now and then because you can actually be saving yourself from a lot of heartbreak in this life. So give but also learn to give back to yourself.
Much love everyone.