Do not let anyone fool you. With all the glitter and glam. If it is the one thing for sure. You never know how they got there and this statement is a powerful one for our every day lives.

We see them all over social media, showing off and making it look as if everything is all fine.

Darling, let me tell you a secret. It may not be all glitter and glam around them at all.

Within and outside of them,it can be filled with comparisons,pain,depression and high expectation from everyone around them . Each and every day trying to live up to some false expectations from others.

Social media has made us a generation of comparisons slaves. We just have to tell the world what we just accomplished and we have to take a selfie of every single thing.

We can’t keep our latest events to ourselves and we just have to show off on everyone else. We have our own selves to blame for the high rate in aniexty cases, depression and suicidal rates.

Because we have not stopped to think of the effects we are causing to one another mental health. We have added fire to the pot in creating comparisons with one another by posting everything that we get our hands on. Without thinking of the other person who may not want to see this on their feed anymore.

Sure, we can unfollow, unfriend and just ignore. But sometimes that is easier said than done. Especially if it is a close friend or worse yet family member who is just mindlessly telling everyone on the internet what they mastered again.

While we maybe taking baby steps every day and making small wins. But just not in the big way others may have it. And that my dear friends is where depression sinks in, if you are not strong enough.

Let me honest here with that one , even the “strong one” have their moments. Trust me on that one. Because life is a funny thing that we cannot take too seriously sometimes.

One of the reasons is just when we got a little control on one of our life situations. We go onto our social media profiles and find ourselves comparing our lives with many others around our same age group.

Then we begin to question ourselves. Oh,I just got a promotion that I have been working hard for , but now I am wondering maybe I am missing something

All because we went on our phones and see Lucy got engaged this weekend. And maybe you are still single or just came out a relationship. Now your no longer as excited as before because although you are happy for Lucy you can’t help but wonder.

It has all happened to us at least once. We can be at the top of our game or struggling to stay in the game.

We know we always feel this pinch and what we never know is we can come out this race.

How?

By actually not caring what anyone even thinks.

As I said Life is a funny thing and if you take any of this too seriously you will realize.

All of it is not real.

Sometimes you remember to admit it can be too much on one person.

When the love is so strong you tend to give and give and realize you have no more to give.

The love you give tends to be so strong you will deny yourself any more harm and not be able to say no.

No to what to always giving and not being filled back up.

You will put your all into a relationship and the other would not see the effort you are really giving and the sacrifices you are making. To be with them they will only see what they are getting from the relationship.

You will realize you give so much of yourself and deny yourself of the love you have been awaiting for all this time. Why settle when you know you deserve the same amount of attention as the other?

It is never about the money and it is never about having someone around. It is always about giving and RECEIVING the same in return. Not being treated as a second option as not having someone who always think well she will always be around. Because I know they love me unconditionally.

You deserve so much more than a half way love song and a love that is deep and meaningful to you. You feel the love not only in material gains but in the things the person do. You do not feel like its a one way relationship and you are feeling the strain of it when you really want to feel balance.

Balance in your life.

Balance in spirituality.

Balance in relationships.

When one is not balance it tends to throw u off balance and you realize the glitches and red flags you have been missing.

Planning is an unnatural process; it is much more fun to do something. The nicest thing about not planning is that failure comes as a complete surprise, rather than being preceded by a period of worry and depression.   –John Harvey-Jones

Surprise, surprise, surprise. This is what life is saying to me now. The feeling of things getting out of control and out of reach is overwhelming. Positive mind, positive mind, I keep saying this to myself to center my mind so it can stop thinking even for just a while.

Bong then Bang, one after the next, life keeps throwing all these curve balls at me and quite out of control with them. How am I suppose to manager all this load by myself?

Here take this, maybe you can do with a little excitement. I don’t think you have enough stress to keep you occupied. This is how I feel when life just won’t give me a break with everything because for a second everything was actually fine.

It’s winter time in most lands, where you are is too sunny let me help you with that one. Life decides to have my heart feeling ice cold as I honestly don’t know which way to turn. Here let me help you maybe you can bleed a bit by ensuring you can feel everyone pain and put yourself aside for a bit. Yes my caring nature is so wonderfully adored by all.

Take some more pain and lets top it all with a little retrogates. Yes, let me remember a time I had one of the hardest moments, by abruptly bringing up something. That seems all so familiar right.

Don’t worry I am not done yet because I know you are strong so just wait I have a lot more in store just for you.

Doesn’t it all sound so familiar, well to me it is. Life can be a roller coaster and it can seriously feel like its not on your side at times. At the end of the day,life happens and it suppose to, it only shows we are alive.

The Universe spins off from life, so when surprise, surprise events happens, let us stop and think for a while. Let us take a step back and ask ourselves what can we do now to fix this problem. If its not fixable move on.

The hardest lesson in life to learn is to keep a positive mind in all situation. It is not impossible, but it is possible to keep a calm steady mind threw it all.

When it all feels like it is tumbling down. Let us stop, breath, reflect and take a step back to center ourselves, then tackle our problems.

Much love everyone.

This can be one of the most horrific feelings anyone can face. The agony,the shame,the disgrace and the pain. It can all come rushing down and hit you bang in the face.

Many of us suffer with this day by day and have no idea how to face any of this by the day. It can be eating away at our skin and our pain can be so deep it cuts like a knife. Many would say I live with so many expectations, that at times I forgot how it feels to actually fail. So, when this hits you in the front page your heart can’t take it anymore.

My eyes, oh my eyes, the pain I feel from crying out my eyes. I know so many feel this pain because we live in a world in so much pain. That we forgot when we actually end up in pain we can’t even manage to lift up our heads to see the vail.

Time and time again, we would fail but we have to find a way to mold it away. I wish I had a pill that says, it will pass away but I know it will be a lie after some time. Living with pain is a hell of a thing, that when it actually goes away we forget, that actually one day we have to deal with all of this again.

So I would say when it comes to facing failures and pain we have to find a way to deal with all of it. When we do figure it out, remember to lift your head and move on. All the sweet words of time heals everything , and everything happens for a reason is all nicely said to all. But we all know when something tragic happens, it is hard to fall asleep at night.

All the prayers and quotes can give us a push to move forward but in the end it is up to us to really want to move forward. Many talk about all the success many got but they always seem to forget to mention the amount of failures they had to endure to get where they are to this day. So don’t get too tied up with most success stories and always remember to ask how they got to that point.

Take back up your life and wipe away those tears because no one actually cares what you are doing with your time. Most just want something to talk about and many want one just one to take that jump.

Do what you want and if you fail many times. Just know that at least you tried. This life is full of many disguises and one of them is making everyone feel like they have to wear a disguise for all.

This is your life to live and failure and pain is all of part of it but know when you have made it. You have really made it and most of the times it is because of failure and pain and you understand the true meaning of life.

Much love everyone.