Do not let anyone fool you. With all the glitter and glam. If it is the one thing for sure. You never know how they got there and this statement is a powerful one for our every day lives.
We see them all over social media, showing off and making it look as if everything is all fine.
Darling, let me tell you a secret. It may not be all glitter and glam around them at all.
Within and outside of them,it can be filled with comparisons,pain,depression and high expectation from everyone around them . Each and every day trying to live up to some false expectations from others.
Social media has made us a generation of comparisons slaves. We just have to tell the world what we just accomplished and we have to take a selfie of every single thing.
We can’t keep our latest events to ourselves and we just have to show off on everyone else. We have our own selves to blame for the high rate in aniexty cases, depression and suicidal rates.
Because we have not stopped to think of the effects we are causing to one another mental health. We have added fire to the pot in creating comparisons with one another by posting everything that we get our hands on. Without thinking of the other person who may not want to see this on their feed anymore.
Sure, we can unfollow, unfriend and just ignore. But sometimes that is easier said than done. Especially if it is a close friend or worse yet family member who is just mindlessly telling everyone on the internet what they mastered again.
While we maybe taking baby steps every day and making small wins. But just not in the big way others may have it. And that my dear friends is where depression sinks in, if you are not strong enough.
Let me honest here with that one , even the “strong one” have their moments. Trust me on that one. Because life is a funny thing that we cannot take too seriously sometimes.
One of the reasons is just when we got a little control on one of our life situations. We go onto our social media profiles and find ourselves comparing our lives with many others around our same age group.
Then we begin to question ourselves. Oh,I just got a promotion that I have been working hard for , but now I am wondering maybe I am missing something
All because we went on our phones and see Lucy got engaged this weekend. And maybe you are still single or just came out a relationship. Now your no longer as excited as before because although you are happy for Lucy you can’t help but wonder.
It has all happened to us at least once. We can be at the top of our game or struggling to stay in the game.
We know we always feel this pinch and what we never know is we can come out this race.
By actually not caring what anyone even thinks.
As I said Life is a funny thing and if you take any of this too seriously you will realize.
Planning is an unnatural process; it is much more fun to do something. The nicest thing about not planning is that failure comes as a complete surprise, rather than being preceded by a period of worry and depression. –John Harvey-Jones
Surprise, surprise, surprise. This is what life is saying to me now. The feeling of things getting out of control and out of reach is overwhelming. Positive mind, positive mind, I keep saying this to myself to center my mind so it can stop thinking even for just a while.
Bong then Bang, one after the next, life keeps throwing all these curve balls at me and quite out of control with them. How am I suppose to manager all this load by myself?
Here take this, maybe you can do with a little excitement. I don’t think you have enough stress to keep you occupied. This is how I feel when life just won’t give me a break with everything because for a second everything was actually fine.
It’s winter time in most lands, where you are is too sunny let me help you with that one. Life decides to have my heart feeling ice cold as I honestly don’t know which way to turn. Here let me help you maybe you can bleed a bit by ensuring you can feel everyone pain and put yourself aside for a bit. Yes my caring nature is so wonderfully adored by all.
Take some more pain and lets top it all with a little retrogates. Yes, let me remember a time I had one of the hardest moments, by abruptly bringing up something. That seems all so familiar right.
Don’t worry I am not done yet because I know you are strong so just wait I have a lot more in store just for you.
Doesn’t it all sound so familiar, well to me it is. Life can be a roller coaster and it can seriously feel like its not on your side at times. At the end of the day,life happens and it suppose to, it only shows we are alive.
The Universe spins off from life, so when surprise, surprise events happens, let us stop and think for a while. Let us take a step back and ask ourselves what can we do now to fix this problem. If its not fixable move on.
The hardest lesson in life to learn is to keep a positive mind in all situation. It is not impossible, but it is possible to keep a calm steady mind threw it all.
When it all feels like it is tumbling down. Let us stop, breath, reflect and take a step back to center ourselves, then tackle our problems.
“Without hustle, your talent will only get you so far” – Gary Vaynerchuk
Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago. — Warren Buffett
Three impactful leaders who have worked hard in many ways to reach where they are today. There are many others as well but Jack Ma, Gary Vaynerchuk and Warren Buffett have become giants in their field by following mindful steps to reach success.
This success didn’t come over night they all have different ways of reaching success and each one went threw failure of some kind. They have grown from failure and know hard work is always the key to victory.
I will be going threw a few of their quotes from their speeches which have helped many over a period of time. First I will start with Jack Ma, he is the Founder and Executive Chairman of Alibaba Group. Jack Ma was a former English Teacher from China and now has one of the world’s largest e-commerce businesses.
Some of his quotes has caught my attention and I will share these with you.
1 – Look at Challenges as opportunities.
This is a hard one but over time I have taken this advise and look at every single circumstance I find myself in as a beautiful opportunity.
2 – Have Fun
Have fun as life is short and we came into this world to enjoy life.
3 – Focus on Quality not Quantity
This statement could not be any truer. When we focus on producing more, quality may decrease. I have seen this with my own eyes.
3 – Be the first
This statement is special to me. We must aim to be original and the first in everything. Following the crowd does not cut it anymore in our times. We need people to stand up and not be scared to be the first.
4 – Prepare for the future
Everyone is caught up with the now. We must take small steps to prepare for the future.
5 – Respect competitors and learn from them.
This statement explains itself, respect and learn from one another. You never know what can happen.
6 – Surround yourself with greatness
If you want to be successful, surround yourself with those that have the same aim with you. Be around the goal keepers, the leaders, motivators and innovators, these energies are what you want to surround yourself with daily.
7 – It is not what company you get into, it is what boss you want to follow.
Leaders inspire people. They want to mold those around them to be the best,that way they can get the best. Not every company has a leader with this trait.
8 – Believe in yourself
If you don’t believe, how you expect anyone else to believe in you.
9 – Be optimistic about the future
Always have a positive mindset towards the future ahead.
10 – Never complain
Do not even think about it. Once you complain your mood changes.
11 – Tomorrow is new. Always show up.
Never give up and be consistent.
12 – If you have a dream. Push for it.
Never give up and dreams don’t manifest overnight.
Gary Vaynerchuk is a blogger, author, speaker and Entrepreneur. Born in the former Soviet Union in what is now Belarus. Vaynerchuk was one of the first adopters of social media to build a following that’s now a huge success. His speeches is very straight forward and paints the ugly side of Entrepreneurship, he always stresses on hard work and being prepared for failure.
Here are seven of his quotes that stood out for me.
1 – Work hard, work smart and be patient
Always work smart and have patience. Success does not come overnight.
2 – Put in the work and play the hard way.
Do not try any short cuts. Always give your all to your work and passion.
3 – If you want it work for it.
Gary Vaynerchuk stresses a lot on working hard because you cannot reach that goal without the work.
4 – Nothing in life is free, nothing happens overnight.
Everything you have you have to work for it. Success comes from consistent hard work and sacrifice.
5 – Execute your ideas
Do not just talk , do the work.
6. – Do the things that matter.
Do everything that you believe in and would have a impact in the long run.
7. – Don’t make excuses
Never make any excuse for anything. We live in a era that has so many opportunities, you just need to find a way to use it. We live in a time where our parents and grand parents would love it. We are in the time and correct place to make a difference each one of us. Wherever we are.
Warren Buffett is a business magnate,investor, speaker and and philanthropist who serves as the chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway. He is actually one of my favorites with motivational tips and has a ton of knowledge in what he does best.
Here are 10 of his quotes that stood out to me over the years.
1 – Find your passion
When you find your passion, you find your cause in life and fire will light up in your stomach to push for your goals.
2 – Hire well
Companies always need to hire passionate persons who want to help build a organisation. Not just one who wants that pay cheque.
3 – Don’t care what others think
This is a powerful one. We live in a generation where everyone cares a little to much what people think. The sad part about this is ,the person may not even be thinking of you.
4 – Read,read, read
Warren Buffet read a lot, he stated in many shows about his hours spend reading. Reading helps develop minds and brings new ideas. Plus as a aspiring writer I always try to read as much as I can, this helps with my articles.
5 – Have a margin of safety
Always have a safety net or amount to invest to draw a line. Whatever you look at this as, always have a margin of safety.
6 – Have a competitive advantage
Always try to have a upper hand in situations.
7 -You can’t make a good deal with a bad person.
Watch who you are getting your eggs in a basket with in business.
8 – Always be competing
Never get comfortable because that is the moment your completion will sneak up on you.
9 – Some things take time
Nothing happens overnight.
10 – Act with integrity
It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently. This statement is so powerful that it happens almost every day.
Each one of these leaders have a mark in the business world and they all started from scratch. They understand hard work, consistency, reading and having a passion. They used mindfulness when approaching situations and will leave legacies after them. This did not happen overnight , and each one of us can do the same. Once we practice these principles and the many others who have similar ones.