There is a point in our life we find ourselves looking deep within and realizing we have been holding ourselves back.
It may not be a easy one to come to terms with and this is something I think every other person has to face. We sabotage ourselves one way or the other, either by second guessing outselves, underestimating ourselves or giving too much of ourselves.
In life there needs to be balance and the moment you are not feeling this you know you are sabotaging YOU. It is not selfish to want to see yourself shine and really embrace a little of your life. We all need this from time to time but there need to be a balance with this and when it is found. Keep the balance within your life.
This can be in work, family , friends and relationships. There needs to be a give and take because what happens when you find yourself giving your all and not getting anything in return our subconscious mind do record this within us. The same goes when we continue taking and not giving back in return, our innerself knows what we are doing is wrong.
The Circle of life is based on balance and if we do not have balance we tend to find ourselves in some real turmoil. Within ourself and it shows up in our relationship. We must know there needs to be balance within our lives and not allow anyone to always take from us and not help us full our cup back up. How are we suppose to share ourselves with others if we are not filled up enough to help ourself because we have given our all to someone else benefit. Our love is to be shared with all those around us and we are not to be limited to those we love and know.
Balance is one of the keys to success in our lives and seeing change among us.
Have you every thought about doing something bold that may come across as ” not you”.
Well let me tell you something when you start doing things without worrying about the opions of others this can be your most liberating experience ever.
I recently learned a new quote ” I am completely independent of the good or bad opinions of others. ” Let me tell you this quote is probably the ticket to living your most authentic life.
When I thought of this, a person who has this grilled in their system is what some would say thick skin, bold, brave and even adventurous. Some would say bad ass, ass hole or not right. But, the funny part is they do not care. That is mental freedom in one way or another.
So, why cant we be this way sometimes, we should not care for opinions of others. Some of us have this grilled so deep within changing this will be so difficult but we have to make the switch.
Imagine walking down the road and wondering what a random stranger thinks of you who you will probably not see again. Or you are in the mall and you accidentally trip and you turn around to see who saw you… WHY CARE. At least you did not break a leg and most times people did not see a thing.
I have seen people trip and they look around them before they stop to make sure they are ok. I am guilty of this as well lol but now I have to wonder why am I even doing this?
We are so trapped in our mind of having some kind of control of what others think of us. We never realize we are trapped within a cage and we are ready to fly.
Do you know we are so busy wondering what other people think we lose track of what we are really doing? Have you ever notice this with yourself. We tend to get caught up in the main goal in the first place.
Some of us we only know to be a people pleaser. For some reason or the other we do not know anything else to our life. We are only concerned in making others happy and forgetting our own lives.
This becomes exhausting and too much to bear as we are in a lose situation. We cannot win this game because we cannot please every one. That is why growing thick skin is awesome and liberating.
When you find this freedom within you will begin to live.
Have you ever looked back at your life and said I had the whole thing wrong this whole time?
Well we live in a very different generation line where many are making our older generation look like they had it wrong all the time. Some may even say this generation have it all wrong.
Either way someone has it …. wrong.
But, it may not be completly wrong. As many millemiums have shown that tradition, rules, routine and everything else of the past 10 to 20 years is no longer a part of life. Many would say this is the reason we are in a messed up planet, I will say it is the reason we are making progress and fixing some of the errors.
To be honest, humanity kinda took many things too far or too literal. We are now facing a lot of new problems that need a new mindset. Fortunately, our current generation is seeing the problems and willing to address the issues. We are really standing up for ourselves, and letting the world know. Hey, this is not right.
A lot has changed drastically in the last 10 years and it is because nothing can ever stay the same . I am hoping we are not addressing climate change situation and a lot of other issues too late.
But, there is a God and he knows our heart. So, I trust everything will fall right into place. As I am getting kinda spiritual here, on this topic the word religion in some ways more than others have changed drastically. This is a topic I do not like to discuss much or at all. But, I do have to admit a lot of changes are taking place both positively and negatively.
A lot of millemiums eyes are being opened and realizing that the traditional rules some of us have been following is causing some hovic . The older generation may say it is the reason we are facing some challenges in religion. I would say it is time to realize we are dividing ourselves with different belief systems.
Technology has really changed the game in a lot of beliefs, traditions, rules and structure. But we are humans and have the power to use this to our advantage to probably save our planet, prevent one or two wars from happening and saving the generation after us from hate,envy,jelousy,racialism and religious division.
Maybe our generation would be the ones making the changes that really needed to take place many years ago. Because if we dont step out, break the cycle, help many get out the “rat race” and beat the system. We can be looking at traditions,routine, systems controlling us and destroying us completly.
To me the last few generations was not blessed the way we are now and many held back and really went with what they knew. There was a few that really shaken up this world and made huge changes . We know them and love them. But to be honest there was not enough, in our time at least half the population is tired, fed up and want something new.
Many are going out their way to change the “norm” including myself. Because we want change not only for ourselves but for others. It is not fair to have another generation embrace half the challenges our planet is facing and about to face without knowledge, example, proper leadership and a little less burden from last generations.
It is not fair to drown our children and children children with things we was told was the way to live and never challenge any of this for the better.
Our world has changed whether we like it or not, sorry to say. It will never be the same and reminiscing on how old times was is not helping any of us with the struggles we have to face if we do not deal with the issues NOW.
Trust me when I say we have many issues, worldwide. We have to all make a effort to bring change into our lives because if we do not. We may not have anyone who would be able to live to 50 on this planet. The stress levels would be too much, murder rates around the globe will be a nightmare, climate change will destroy a continent and wars will begin all over the place over every issue raised.
Let us take what is happening now as a example, and make small steps within ourself to change and then we can begin to change those around us. I am hopeful for the future of our planet because I see hope in my generation and the next.
We had it wrong for many years and many of us want change. So, let us all make the decision to bring change into our lives step by step.
This way our children and grandchildren would watch the news and smile because they know they can walk down the street without being harassed. They can go to the mall, they can travel without fear around the globe and know their parents had a part to play in creating a changed world for the better.
Manifestation of goals is always a step by step process. At least it is for me, it is a daily process of taking small steps and decisions to reach a place in your life you know is 100% you.
These decisions can be hard at first but it is necessary to reach a goal. We all have those goals and we all have those steps in our mind we would like to see ourself reach.
I have reach a point in my life I no longer wait. The waiting game is no longer in me maybe it is because I am older now and wiser to know when to wait and when to go after it right away.
Lately I have found myself not waiting anymore and just pushing to reach that goal.
So far I can say when I look at my life I am pleased with where I am now. I am happy with the journey I have been through and I know I was prepared by my life experiences to face what is ahead.
Maybe it is something in the air but I have a strong desire for change. Maybe it is all the decluttering in my life but I have reach a point in life I no longer want to hide behind the mask I want to push for those goals and reach them without any hesiatation.
Changing my mindset, surroundings and attitude has been one of the biggest challenges and it is a day to day journey but I have learned it is worth it in the end. Each new day is the start of something new and I am always looking forward to what is next. It took a lot to reach to this point but with consistent work on myself and shedding a lot of old layers. I have reach to this point and I am still growing and shedding a lot of old patterns, ways, mindset and behaviors behind and I am loving every moment of it.
I will admit at times it is a bit sad to leave behind a lot of my old self but I know it is worth it in the end. To live the full peaceful life with love and complete hapiness.
I want this for everyone because I always believe there is more to life than just an average life that has been handed down to us by generations.
We have learned a lot from our parents and grandparents but their time have been so different to ours. We live in a new dimension of manifesting goals and dreams and anyone can come out of a ditch in life.
I believe this one, a huge thanks goes to technology and being able to connect with one another from all over the world. This is a blessing one my parents and grand parents never had, and I plan to use to my advantage and touch many lives including yours.
You should do the same as well as we all change create the life we envision for ourselves. Why is that? Because you are reading this and your conscious is telling you something.
Well the first step is a choice. A choice is put in front of you and depending on your decision you either move forward or stay stuck.
That choice can also make or break you. This can be a choice to break the tradition, beliefs or routine. It is going to shake your whole life up. A safe choice is not a choice as this will keep you stuck but you will feel a sense of security. As some would say to themselves. But, making a bold choice can be daughting and end up being the best decision of your life.
This can change the whole game for you. It can switch a few things in life and sometimes, we are not ready for some of it. Unfortunatly, life does not wait on us and if you have not notice time does not as well. Every day we get older and hopefully wiser based on our choices.
We learn and grow from a choice and at times it is that bold choice. That helps us mold the way forward. Decisions are never a cup of tea for me and I never envy anyone who has to make them. But I do know when someone is torn between two choices they really have to think deeply on what lies ahead. Holding back from the choice they know can help them can be unhealthy as progress may never happen within their life.
From my experience especially recently I have found the better choice is always the bolder choice but the feelings of making the choice can be tough. There can be consequences that I may have to face and of course we know the famous disappointment we have to embrace.
But in the end a choice is still left to make and most of the times. It is better to go with the choice that scares you because that is the one that will help grow, expand and embrace the fullness of life. After all isnt that what we are on earth for …… to live.
So, why are so many of us not doing this including myself,holding back.
What you think, you can manifest towards your life. Thoughts and words go hand in hand and can bring forth your reality. They say what you say and believe is what brings forth in your day to day life. That is why you have to be so careful what you say inwardly and outwardly.
Young children thinking can be affected from a very young age. Which can have an effect on their lives with the way they see things from a young age.
There is so much violence happening around the globe and children and teenagers are involved, and many are asking themselves why. Well, the answer lies in what we let our little ones view and take in from young. What is being put in their subconscious mind from an early age?
I can tell you a lot of cartoons and movies have a lot of violence and graphical images, that are being put in a young one mind from the age of 3. Many are giving there kids video games and having them unsupervised with their internet and tv time. Some children are even more tech-savvy than their own parents which are even scarier.
Whatever they are being shown on their devices they are putting into their subconscious minds. That, unfortunately, leaves an effect on them for a lifetime.
When positive alignment is placed around someone, to view or put in their minds. They will transform their thinking to positive thoughts only and bring forth positive thinking, words, and actions. Our subconscious mind is where our deepest thoughts lie and some thoughts go way back. This leads to our conscious mind and it eventually brings forth in our day to day lives.
There is a quote from Jesus Christ which states ask and it will be given, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you.
Our thoughts go the same way with our actions, when we think of our lives and envision our future we must think positive. This is because we are asking the Universe for assistance, seek with all your mind and heart. When you are seeking for an outcome you are searching for results and when you bring positive alignment to it, you already envision a healthy outcome.
Knock and the door will be opened, always keep your thoughts on the positive side of a request or situation. This is because you have asked the Universe for assistance and it will help you, once you believe with all your heart and mind.
Your mind is a powerful tool and you need to find ways to keep it on a positive aspect. Every day find 5 positive affirmations and say it daily, this can help when negativity creeps in and it always does. You will see the difference in situations when it doesn’t go your way.
Always choose different thoughts and your actions will fall in line.
There is another saying that I have heard once or twice before by many motivational speakers. Fake it until you make it. This switches your brain to have you thinking, you have already reached your goal. The Universe will fall in align and help you align your thoughts to your belief with time.
Expect a positive outcome and it will come. Expect luck and it will come. What we determine, is what comes forth in our lives.
Take 5 minutes a day to visualize your success, breath deeply when you are doing this meditation. Close your eyes and focus on the goal being acquired. This will help when you become stressed or when negativity begins to creep inside.
Try to remember positive moments when you acquired your goal. This will help with getting the feel, taste and smell you had at the time. Use this feeling when envisioning your future goals and see how it affects your thoughts when under high pressure.
When you envision the success, it will be brought forth in your day to day life. Tell the Universe exactly what you want and leave it all in the higher force hands to deal with, you have already started your process or done your part. When you let go and not continually dwelling on it, you are putting out that you are expecting this to come forth in your favor.
Happiness is a state of mind, so always be happy. Happiness is no means to an end of problems. It is something that you mindfully let happen to you.
Winners are always happy even when their world can be tumbling down. Nothing in life is permanent and we can always change circumstances but it always begins with your thoughts, towards everything.
Never let outside influences affect you, and how you see yourself. You can control circumstances and make them into opportunities and the Universe will bless you.
Failure is never a failure, it’s another chance and a new beginning of another book or chapter.
Most importantly, always practice living in the present. You can envision the future, but you must always make happiness a habit.
Planning is an unnatural process; it is much more fun to do something. The nicest thing about not planning is that failure comes as a complete surprise, rather than being preceded by a period of worry and depression. –John Harvey-Jones
Surprise, surprise, surprise. This is what life is saying to me now. The feeling of things getting out of control and out of reach is overwhelming. Positive mind, positive mind, I keep saying this to myself to center my mind so it can stop thinking even for just a while.
Bong then Bang, one after the next, life keeps throwing all these curve balls at me and quite out of control with them. How am I suppose to manager all this load by myself?
Here take this, maybe you can do with a little excitement. I don’t think you have enough stress to keep you occupied. This is how I feel when life just won’t give me a break with everything because for a second everything was actually fine.
It’s winter time in most lands, where you are is too sunny let me help you with that one. Life decides to have my heart feeling ice cold as I honestly don’t know which way to turn. Here let me help you maybe you can bleed a bit by ensuring you can feel everyone pain and put yourself aside for a bit. Yes my caring nature is so wonderfully adored by all.
Take some more pain and lets top it all with a little retrogates. Yes, let me remember a time I had one of the hardest moments, by abruptly bringing up something. That seems all so familiar right.
Don’t worry I am not done yet because I know you are strong so just wait I have a lot more in store just for you.
Doesn’t it all sound so familiar, well to me it is. Life can be a roller coaster and it can seriously feel like its not on your side at times. At the end of the day,life happens and it suppose to, it only shows we are alive.
The Universe spins off from life, so when surprise, surprise events happens, let us stop and think for a while. Let us take a step back and ask ourselves what can we do now to fix this problem. If its not fixable move on.
The hardest lesson in life to learn is to keep a positive mind in all situation. It is not impossible, but it is possible to keep a calm steady mind threw it all.
When it all feels like it is tumbling down. Let us stop, breath, reflect and take a step back to center ourselves, then tackle our problems.
“Forget Everything and Run or Face Everything and Rise. “
The choice is always ours but that choice can also be tough because honestly when we face some of our fears they can change us for the better. Facing fears is always healthy as it can help many of us grow but the step to face some of those fears can be really demanding for us.
The deep pit feeling, the questions many of us do not want to answer can be a huge challenge and would rather not face it at all. Many of us have to swallow a huge pit and just get with it but the moment we have to actually face that fear we stiffen up. It happens to all of us and I know many would rather run than face that obstacle that is standing in front of us. It is easier said than done and at times saying it is a lot easier than actually getting it done with, do not matter how many things we may try.
Eventually, we have to face it all and swallow that pit. The deep feeling of fear and anxiety that takes over whenever we are faced with one of the situations that we rather avoid all together. It may take years and a few may never face it at all but one day they do. When we do face our fears and allow things to unfold the Universe will help guide us and we will walk down a different road. This road will have change in it and a heavy load will be off our shoulders. Life is not be lived in fear, eventually we all have to face that dark side we all have and want to avoid. When we do face our fears we will see a whole new world in our eyes and things will all fall in align.
Never give up on your dreams. We all have dreams we want to achieve and we must make time everyday to work on those dreams. Excuses won’t get you to where you want to be with all the resources we have and the beauty of technology.
We are all truly blessed to be living in this era. This is the time where we can network with each other and be living million miles away. We shouldn’t have excuses to not push to get when we want in this lifetime.
When you make a decision to change your life for the better stick to it. Do not let the pressure of life or opinions of others force yourself to second guess yourself. Each of us knows our worth and we all know what we have to do to reach those goals.
It won’t be an easy road, it never is an easy road. If anyone ever said it will be a bed of roses they lied. But one thing is for sure, it is worth the fight. Just think of the win and you will know why you are doing all of this life.
Do not give up or give in. Your time to shine is just round the block.
“Without hustle, your talent will only get you so far” – Gary Vaynerchuk
Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago. — Warren Buffett
Three impactful leaders who have worked hard in many ways to reach where they are today. There are many others as well but Jack Ma, Gary Vaynerchuk and Warren Buffett have become giants in their field by following mindful steps to reach success.
This success didn’t come over night they all have different ways of reaching success and each one went threw failure of some kind. They have grown from failure and know hard work is always the key to victory.
I will be going threw a few of their quotes from their speeches which have helped many over a period of time. First I will start with Jack Ma, he is the Founder and Executive Chairman of Alibaba Group. Jack Ma was a former English Teacher from China and now has one of the world’s largest e-commerce businesses.
Some of his quotes has caught my attention and I will share these with you.
1 – Look at Challenges as opportunities.
This is a hard one but over time I have taken this advise and look at every single circumstance I find myself in as a beautiful opportunity.
2 – Have Fun
Have fun as life is short and we came into this world to enjoy life.
3 – Focus on Quality not Quantity
This statement could not be any truer. When we focus on producing more, quality may decrease. I have seen this with my own eyes.
3 – Be the first
This statement is special to me. We must aim to be original and the first in everything. Following the crowd does not cut it anymore in our times. We need people to stand up and not be scared to be the first.
4 – Prepare for the future
Everyone is caught up with the now. We must take small steps to prepare for the future.
5 – Respect competitors and learn from them.
This statement explains itself, respect and learn from one another. You never know what can happen.
6 – Surround yourself with greatness
If you want to be successful, surround yourself with those that have the same aim with you. Be around the goal keepers, the leaders, motivators and innovators, these energies are what you want to surround yourself with daily.
7 – It is not what company you get into, it is what boss you want to follow.
Leaders inspire people. They want to mold those around them to be the best,that way they can get the best. Not every company has a leader with this trait.
8 – Believe in yourself
If you don’t believe, how you expect anyone else to believe in you.
9 – Be optimistic about the future
Always have a positive mindset towards the future ahead.
10 – Never complain
Do not even think about it. Once you complain your mood changes.
11 – Tomorrow is new. Always show up.
Never give up and be consistent.
12 – If you have a dream. Push for it.
Never give up and dreams don’t manifest overnight.
Gary Vaynerchuk is a blogger, author, speaker and Entrepreneur. Born in the former Soviet Union in what is now Belarus. Vaynerchuk was one of the first adopters of social media to build a following that’s now a huge success. His speeches is very straight forward and paints the ugly side of Entrepreneurship, he always stresses on hard work and being prepared for failure.
Here are seven of his quotes that stood out for me.
1 – Work hard, work smart and be patient
Always work smart and have patience. Success does not come overnight.
2 – Put in the work and play the hard way.
Do not try any short cuts. Always give your all to your work and passion.
3 – If you want it work for it.
Gary Vaynerchuk stresses a lot on working hard because you cannot reach that goal without the work.
4 – Nothing in life is free, nothing happens overnight.
Everything you have you have to work for it. Success comes from consistent hard work and sacrifice.
5 – Execute your ideas
Do not just talk , do the work.
6. – Do the things that matter.
Do everything that you believe in and would have a impact in the long run.
7. – Don’t make excuses
Never make any excuse for anything. We live in a era that has so many opportunities, you just need to find a way to use it. We live in a time where our parents and grand parents would love it. We are in the time and correct place to make a difference each one of us. Wherever we are.
Warren Buffett is a business magnate,investor, speaker and and philanthropist who serves as the chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway. He is actually one of my favorites with motivational tips and has a ton of knowledge in what he does best.
Here are 10 of his quotes that stood out to me over the years.
1 – Find your passion
When you find your passion, you find your cause in life and fire will light up in your stomach to push for your goals.
2 – Hire well
Companies always need to hire passionate persons who want to help build a organisation. Not just one who wants that pay cheque.
3 – Don’t care what others think
This is a powerful one. We live in a generation where everyone cares a little to much what people think. The sad part about this is ,the person may not even be thinking of you.
4 – Read,read, read
Warren Buffet read a lot, he stated in many shows about his hours spend reading. Reading helps develop minds and brings new ideas. Plus as a aspiring writer I always try to read as much as I can, this helps with my articles.
5 – Have a margin of safety
Always have a safety net or amount to invest to draw a line. Whatever you look at this as, always have a margin of safety.
6 – Have a competitive advantage
Always try to have a upper hand in situations.
7 -You can’t make a good deal with a bad person.
Watch who you are getting your eggs in a basket with in business.
8 – Always be competing
Never get comfortable because that is the moment your completion will sneak up on you.
9 – Some things take time
Nothing happens overnight.
10 – Act with integrity
It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently. This statement is so powerful that it happens almost every day.
Each one of these leaders have a mark in the business world and they all started from scratch. They understand hard work, consistency, reading and having a passion. They used mindfulness when approaching situations and will leave legacies after them. This did not happen overnight , and each one of us can do the same. Once we practice these principles and the many others who have similar ones.