Love is in the air and Valentines Day is fast approaching with so much cheer.  The music, the movies and all the adverts with what gifts to get him or her, has everyone wanting to be in love.  Each year is the same song, roses, diamonds, and cute teddy bears.  It makes so many who is single want to cringe in their chairs. 

Valentines Day always comes across like its very unfortunate for anyone to be alone on this day.  That many would rush home to just get away from it.  Valentine’s day is a day of love and love comes in many forms but the most important love song we seem to hear is the songs where we need to be with someone else.  Many have forgotten that self-love is always first before loving someone else.   

We need to love ourselves first before we can even look into another eye and think of loving them. Knowing your worth is important, as I always believe once you know who you are and can look in the mirror with complete love for self.  You will know what you will and will not tolerate in relationships.  When you know what you want and would not settle for less because you know you are truly loved first by yourself.

Loving yourself is most important and this has to be taken very dearly for true love to manifest.  Self-love and care is deep and should be celebrated on this special day.  Those who may be single get your hair and nails done on this day.  Do not be afraid to head to the movies by yourself because you want to spend some quality time with self.  Get that bouquet of red roses and carry home and know you are loved dearly by yourself.   Do not feel guilty if you are alone on this day, as this can be the most beautiful moment you can spend with yourself and would help you grow internally.

If you are able to take the day for yourself, treat yourself special on this day.  As this is your day for self-love,  look in the mirror and say I love you, I really do love you with every bone in your body.  Take some time to reflect, journal, meditate, take a run or just relax by yourself.  Self-love is the most important love because if you cannot love yourself, no one else would for you. 

Never go looking for love in another if you cannot find it in yourself.  Because this is the biggest error you can make for yourself.  Self-love is the most important love and many do not want to hear this one.  If you cannot take time to love yourself and always giving out all your love without any return, you would have to take some time to love yourself first.  Valentine’s day is a beautiful day for love and love comes in many forms and one of the most powerful forms of love is always self-love. Love yourself first, so you know what kind of love you deserve.

There was once a little girl name Sam who was obsessed with roses and flowers. She would pick a flower on her way from school each day. Sam was in love with flowers and her mother would always get upset, as she was randomly picking flowers from people galleries and the park.

Sam was intruded with the way flowers would look and she would always imagine herself receiving a flower from someone she loved. She would watch romantic movies only to see when the flowers was being given and she would be totally excited by that moment on the show.

Sam was a lovely child and as she grew up her beauty and radiance blossomed just like flowers. Everyone knew her, everyone loved her she was the pretty one who was always stopping to pick a flower or took a picture of a flower. She never cared what anyone thought of her and that made her stand out to everyone around.

She grew up and had a heart of gold, she was a lover of nature and spend her time nurturing the garden she created. She would have orchids, lillies, aster,asclepias syriaca,roses,violet and many other breath taking flowers blossoming around her. Her ultimate favorite was always her red roses that was always dashing with wonder when you see it.

Every day she would be outside in her garden nurturing her flowers, watering them and taking care of each one. She even gave some names, especially her orchids and roses as she was in love with them. Every day she would spend time in her garden making her full focus on her flowers.

Sam would attend to nature events and show case her orchids, flowers and roses and everyone would be fascinated with them. Many people would even take their sons to introduce them to her as she was a radiant beauty with wonder and awe. Sam was known for her flowers and her beauty and dashing personality.

Little did anyone know she was sick with a unknown disease and went to many doctors and non can find a cure for her. It was the early 1950s and medication where she lived was scarce and expensive. Sam always kept a positive mindset and knew she would one day be cured from this illness.

She always told herself she was making a impact by doing the simplest things each day. Sam would always smile with everyone she knew and would always help the elders in her city. Many would ask, why haven’t you find yourself a good husband as yet as you are a dashing beauty. I know many young men would marry you in a heartbeat but Sam was never interested as she was happy exactly the way she was living. It was a simple life, but a beautiful life in every way.

One day while watering her flowers in her garden. A young man came up to her and ask if she was feeling alright. Sam was sweating and she felt she was beginning to get a little sick from all her work that day. It was a hot day and Sam knew she should not have been pushing herself so hard.

The young man asked if she needed any help instead she said no, but he insisted. He had some water in a jug and gave some to her, she drank and he introduced himself. His name was Billy and he was a visitor from out of town. He had the sweetest smile she had ever seen from anyone in her life and she was intruded by his kindness.

She introduced herself and asked what he was doing in the area. He said he was visiting a patient as he is the only doctor in the county that had the medication that was needed. Sam realized he was a doctor and was thrilled and immediately told him about her illness. He was quite surprised as he never heard of anyone with this before in his life.

Billy had spend many years travelling and working with many medical cases but this one was a first for him. He was also fascinated with her beauty and awe. He has never seen such a beautiful person before.

Billy agreed to check Sam and see what he can do to help her with her illness. Billy knew how to get medication as he has traveled a lot and threw connections knew how to get specialists.

This was a beginning for Sam, she was always wondering how she would find a doctor who has the medication and knowledge to assist her with her case. She looked at her red roses, picked one and gave it to Billy saying thank you for agreeing to help me with my illness.

She continued and said, I was beginning to lose hope and it is a pleasure to finally meet someone who is willing to help me.

Billy smiled as this is a wonderful feeling which he always appreciates the most with his field. The gratitude and love from clients and potential new clients, it always fills a void he longed for so long.

This one was special as he watched into Sam eyes, he known this one was something going to be extra special this time.

“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.” 
― 
Maya Angelou

One of the hardest lessons anyone has to learn is to trust that everything around us will work out for the best. We love to be in control no matter the situation, we love to know what is next, many of us hate the unknown.

Trusting that everything will work out for the best. Trusting that the Universe is on our side. Trusting a love one after betrayal. Trusting yourself sometimes can even be hard because we are all afraid of the unknown at times.

In the end we have to trust that things will work out, that the universe is on our side and those that hurt us will run their course in our lives. We will learn to trust ourselves, our mental awareness will get tougher and we will have to face the unknown. Some of us will thrive and some will fall but eventually they will pick themselves up. Life is about trusting the universe, ourselves and others that things do work out for the best , although we may not see it now.

Trust can be hard and sometimes painful but it can lead us to that breakthrough moment we all have been waiting for in life. There are many sayings that can heal wounds and aid with trusting our life journey but there is one that always stands out to me the most.

Proverbs: 5- 6 – 5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

This passage always helps whenever I feel unsure about anything next and whenever I feel in the wilderness and lost. At times we have to learn to trust and let go of trying to control everything around us. I will admit this is hard but it is possible, only when we let go and trust the process , the journey of life.

Life leads us in many roads and at times we just have to trust and let go and not lean on our own understanding.

Our world is created in a way that each of us have powers to embrace each moment in our lives. Each day is a new beginning but there is always that extra tingle in everyone when a year ends. Many tend to reflect and look into their lives. I myself begin to reflect on everything in my life and set out my intentions for the year ahead.

There are a few steps I practice every now and then,to help me start a new month, chapter or year. I will share with you these steps that I have tried and succeeded with to embrace my journey in this life.

Making a list of tasks I am inspired to take on. You can set this out for the year, each new month, a new chapter in your life or even a weekly task list. These “to do lists” is not your regular list of items to take on. It is a list of tasks that is leading to a particular goal or aim in life.

Make a list of tasks that you are unsure about and leave it in the universe hands. Writing has helped with setting out my intentions, I am unsure about and seeing what the universe has to offer with these intentions. It is a wait and see game when you do a task and leave the rest all to the universe, you can see wonders, once you believe.

See the world with fresh eyes. I love doing this, from time to time. Every time I get bored with a activity or I find myself in a routine which by the way I hate. I always take it like its the first time, get the excitement into the routine. Your mind is a wonderful gift and when something seems new ,you play this game every now and then. You will see a change in the outlook and outcome of any given situation.

Reflect. Yes I said that one, think back even when you don’t want to. Don’t do this only once a year , try doing this every now and then. Whenever you feel stuck. Think back. Whenever you feel like you failed. Think back. Whatever it may be just look back and you will see progress. Just remember you made it this far, you can go even further.

Set small intentions. We all have those big intentions but we forget those small intentions. For instance if you plan to have a home cook meal more often, just coming home to start that pot is a good step. You made progress with your healthy lifestyle, if your big intention for the year is to eat healthy.

Each action has a effect and we all have something we want to see change or improve for 2019. These are a few tips I would share with you. Hope you try them and embrace each moment this universe has to offer.

You can feel it in your veins. You become more aware and your heart can no longer just accept what lies ahead for you. You know something has to change.

Dreams become more clearer and you can feel it in your bones that something within you wants to be awakened. You can no longer just let everything around you just pass. You start to understand life more clearer and have a better understanding of what you want from your life.

You would be determined to design the type of life you want. Signs begin to show, you begin to see a certain number more often and you begin to feel more and see situations more clearer.

This can be a beginning, a beautiful beginning but to get a beginning you need to embrace the end. Sometimes a end can be painful but it’s up to you how you take this ending journey. Signs can show up in dreams, numerology or even a random stranger. It’s the beauty about life that can be adventurous and mysterious.

It’s those moments you take to embrace what is in front of you. To love the very moment you have because it’s a blessing. Take that moment to learn from the situation and move on because everything that is happening around you and within you is your spiritual awakening moments in this life.

Once upon a time on a Christmas eve night a child was in a orphanage who never celebrated a Christmas with any family or friends. He was bullied in school and had no one to call family. Each year he will look outside and see children playing with their new toys and enjoying the precious moments with their closest family and friends.

At that moment he would ask himself would I ever be able to experience a true Christmas the way I see others. He felt lonely, depressed and completely hopeless as each year passed it was the same story. One Christmas eve night he made a wish on a star , his wish was to be happy and loved. He wanted a family, a friend, a mentor basically anyone as he never knew what love is from the start.

In school everyone would share there experience or bring gifts for one another and he would crave to know what this feeling is like. He never knew what a hug feels like, a warm smile, receiving anything from anyone or knowing about a Christmas cheer. He only knew what everyone else told him and what he saw outside that window. No one ever opened a door to him for this season as he was looked at as just a orphan.

So, each year on Christmas Eve night he made one wish. Hoping one day his wish could be granted.

Today’s World can throw anyone over the edge if we allow this to happen.

Expectations and comparisons are two of the biggest pains of today’s world. Each day someone is faced with comparison to someone who we think has it all put together. While others are put under pressure of reaching other people expectations which can be unrealistic or become unbearable for many.

It makes many wonder why depression, violence and hate is so strongly existence in our world. Many have become frustrated with there day to day lives they cannot stop to think of another feelings. Many cannot even stop to help a neighbor or worse yet a stranger because we are so caught up in our lives. Trying to meet today’s world expectations and comparing ourselves to almost everyone who seems to have it all put together. When in reality non of us have it figured out because our world changes daily and we have to change our outlook at our lives.

We have to change in small ways that can build a better world. Changes start with each one of us, first accepting we all have different life paths. This will help us stop comparing ourselves to one another. Second small change can be setting our own expectations and letting others know what we can contribute to change situations around us.

Speak up and let your voice be heard even if it stirs up a room. In the end you will be heard for your views and set a tone in any situation that can allow you to have some control.

One of my hopes for 2019 is for peace, happiness and love within our world. Many of us are surrounded by so much hate we have lost ourselves. So many have become so drawn out by our lives we can no longer smile, enjoy a meal with family or find our inner child within us anymore. We have become so caught up in wars, politics and negativity. No wonder so many suffer with anxiety and depression rates are so high around the world.

Traffic, last minute shopping with all the rush and little to no parking spots left you would swear its weekend rush. I am not running late with gifts this year but unluckily for me I had one more gift to buy and was caught in all the hassle today.

All the lights, music, food and decorations everyone loves this season it either has a meaning to some or it traditions brings happiness in lives. Christmas movies, children looking forward to seeing Santa in malls and making a wish list for Christmas morning is something that’s a beauty to see. Schools are closed for children in my little island of Trinidad and so many take this opportunity to take time with their little ones, some even get them involved in all the preparation. It was like this when I was young, I found myself helping with all the decorations, cleaning, painting, volunteering and heading Christmas events. All these moments became traditions that has passed along from generation to generation.

Now as a adult I still heavily participate in all the Christmas activities and appreciate this season more than anything. I also have to take a moment and be appreciative as so many do not have that privilege or cannot celebrate this season the same way . Many have lost a loved one, some are without jobs or unable to celebrate with a family member or partner because of distance. This can take a toll and can easily set a tone for a season.

My only wish for Christmas is that everyone finds happiness in everything and keep each moment special this season. Make traditions if you don’t have, smile at a stranger, play Christmas music even if its for 10 minutes, give a meal to the homeless or just relax. Whatever is planned I hope everyone find a little peace, joy and happiness. In the beauty of this season.